The Power of Pausing
The Power of the Pause
The male brain tends to take a little longer to process words.
That means you need to s-l-o-w down (especially if you are a very verbal female).
Use your breath to help you slow down.
When you train your brain through practicing when interactions are calm, you’ll be prepared to breathe your way through stressful situations and you’ll be in the habit of including PAUSES - which may make all the difference in the result!
An added benefit: “Healthful effects of slower breathing coupled with a calm mind have been well-documented. Animals that breathe the slowest live the longest. Elephants are slow, deep breathers in comparison to mice.”
Try this exercise, adapted from the book, Boys Alive! Bring Out Their Best:
Place hands palms down across your belly button. Imagine you are floating a toy boat, slowly up and slowly down, upon your belly.
Slowly breathe in through your nose on a count of 3, filling your lungs with air, and raising the toy boat.
Hold breath for a count of 3 and release through your mouth completely, for another count of 3.
PAUSE for a count of 3.
Breathe in slowly and continue.
The PAUSE for a count of 3 is the habit you want to gain.
This is the opportunity for you to assess a situation, realign your thoughts, gather your emotions, and a time for your child to process what you’ve said and make appropriate/alternative choices.
Focus on the Power of YOUR Pause to give you more of the right kind of power - in any situation.
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